Is facebook a trap?

These days I hear more and more friends saying they want to delete their facebook accounts. Most of them say they’ve gradually become sick of it and see no point in being on there anymore. I must say I agree. Since I started my wordpress blog I’m spending minimum time on facebook and maximum time on here so I gave deleting my profile a thought or two. Frankly, it is mainly because every time I log on to facebook something always makes me wanna (and forgive me but I have to say it) throw up.

The way some random video starts playing on its own everytime I check the newsfeed is incredibly annoying (I didn’t even wanna watch it! Not mentioning how it slows down the scrolling and all), the fact that the attention seekers are still not extinct and keep posting their selfies almost every day amazes me (and not in a good way!) and the way some people think it’s absolutely necessary to share every piece of their private lives with the rest of us makes me wanna ask them: and we should care why?? So I usually end up going off facebook very quickly because I simply can’t bear it. I think I know exactly why my friends don’t want to be on there.

However, there was always one big BUT in every conversation I had with my friends about deleting their facebooks: yes, they want to deactivate their accounts BUT they simply can’t. If they did delete their profiles they would have lost contact with so many people they would otherwise be unable to keep in touch with. They have either studied abroad or worked abroad, met many people there and facebook is their only way to keep in touch with them, or just see what they are up to.

Some tried it with skype, emails or whatsapp, but let’s face it: there is nothing like facebook when it comes to keeping in touch with old friends and acquaintances.

Gradually all other sorts of internet communication had to step aside because of facebook. It seems like this has been a goal of facebook founders all along. To diminish the importance and prominence of other forms of communication and their means to do it was to provide everything others offer but all in one: You can make video calls just like on skype, text for free via messenger like on whatsapp… And what’s more, they offer something extra: you can see what others are up to without even talking to them, you always know of every party or everything important that is going on without even trying to find out… It is like facebook has a monopoly on people’s communication.

It seems like we’re trapped on facebook. Even if you don’t want to be on it anymore, you feel obliged to keep your account because not being on facebook practically equals a social death. No one invites you to a party, no one messages you, no one remembers your birthday, maybe not even your face… You go off facebook and you fade into oblivion.

It is only normal no one wants that, right? That’s why so many people say: “if I didn’t have that many friends who I’m keeping in touch with only via facebook I would delete my profile right away.”

This is exactly why I’m still keeping mine. To me it feels like I’m trapped by this particular social medium. On the one hand, I am sick of it and on the other I don’t dare deactivating my profile. I don’t want to commit a social suicide.

For the time being, I am not deleting anything. I am just keeping it out of my daily routine and focusing on other things instead. This is to stay both socially and physically alive.


10 thoughts on “Is facebook a trap?

  1. I totally understand what you are saying. I kind of feel the same. Well not exactly, as I don’t see it as social death if I leave FB. BUT: I would definitely loose contact with people I love to be in touch with. FB did a great job in getting us all to the point where we feel it is incredibly hard to leave and that our friendships kind of depend on it… Something I still don’t really get, but then I guess I am part of a different generation as well…

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    • yes, exactly! my post might be a bit exaggerated, but it’s how it is – very hard to leave because of all the people who we’ve met in the past and are perhaps not likely to meet again in person, so we depend on facebook.
      thank you for the comment!

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      • And as you said: Email, Skype and all the other options… won’t really happen. One of my friends who I found through FB again, just left it and although I have her email now, I am not sure how easy it will be to stay in touch.


  2. I left Facebook after six weeks, several years ago. My social media presence consists of tweeted announcements of new posts, and a non-updated presence on LinkedIn, which I haven’t checked in a year.

    It’s rather amazing. I still get dinner invitations, I know what my cousins are doing, I’ve made new friends through my work, and I have delightful relationships with people through my blog. We call one another on the telephone, we exchange Christmas gifts and birthday cards, and we help each other deal with crises like a cat that won’t eat.

    In short: Facebook is fantasy. But it’s playing into the insecurities of people who sleep with their phones (!??!?) and are afraid that they’ll out on something. I have a rich, full life without social media (or television, for that matter.) It’s possible. It takes more effort in some respects, but the rewards are much greater.

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    • Thank you for your comment, it is inspirational. Yes, I think so too: leaving social media and television enriches your life and makes you happier. I myself find it hard at the moment to deactivate my account on facebook – but I’ve got the feeling like sooner or later I will do it because I don’t like it and don’t use it much – except for messages.
      I like Alan Watts’s opinions on digital society and how on account of technology humans are almost forgetting to live their real lives. I can’t agree more. I am nothing without my computer because it’s my working tool, but to be honest I enjoy it all the more when I shut it down and stop staring at the screen..


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